The Probation Office Next Door to St. Ann’s

A proposed federal probation office in One Pierrepont Street just across a small street from the St. Ann’s School caused a brouhaha in the spring. Now, according to the Times, a judge listened to the parent’s concerns. Here’s an excerpt from the Times.

Parents were alarmed. Blogs buzzed. Elected officials were enlisted, and, this week, Raymond J. Dearie, chief judge of the United States District Court for the Eastern District of New York, promised to try to limit interaction between students and the probation office, but said the cohabitation would likely continue.

“What I proposed is that we deal with their specific concerns, rather than this emotional image of criminals walking around Brooklyn Heights, which of course happens every day,” Judge Dearie explained in an interview. “In terms of the kinds of work we do, we can do a lot of things, like altering our schedule, to make this work, but we need to get down to the very specific.”

The school, St. Ann’s, has been educating the best of Brooklyn (and other boroughs) for four decades. The school, whose 1,080 students in prekindergarten through 12th grade are spread over six buildings, is in an increasingly gentrified neighborhood that also includes the courthouses and government buildings of downtown Brooklyn and their varied inhabitants.

Parents who pay St. Ann’s tuition, about $25,000 per year, said they were shocked that the federal government would deem it acceptable to monitor convicted criminals just steps away from students of grade-school age or older. Even more infuriating, they said, was that while the move has been in the works for months, the school was never officially informed

Poetry Readings in Brooklyn Heights Peace Garden

Sian Killingworth is a Park Slope mom, who reads OTBKB for updates on what’s going in the nabe and the borough, is curating two free poetry readings this month, and also teaching a new poetry class at the First Presbyterian Church in Brooklyn Heights starting in September.

Free Poetry Readings
at the First Presbyterian Church of Brooklyn Heights
with featured poets and open mic afterward
124 Henry Street, Brooklyn NY
location: the Peace Garden
Refreshments will be served

Wednesday, August 13th at 7:30 PM
Featured Poets: Mark Bibbins, Susan Miller, Michael Montlack, and Rev. Cari Jackson

Wednesday, August 27th at 7:30 PM
Featured Poets: Michael Cirelli, Sian Killingsworth, and TBD

Poetry Class
124 Poets’ Workshop at the First Presbyterian Church of Brooklyn Heights
124 Henry Street, Brooklyn, NY
location: Rose Room

Poetry Writing Workshop: Releasing the Voice Within
Each one of us has our own unique voice, and many of us don’t have the opportunity to express ourselves with the written word. In this workshop, students will examine and discuss poems written by contemporary poets, referring to poems in a variety of styles as jumping-off points for their own experimentation. Each class meeting will include a lecture on writing craft, literary devices, form, and interpretation, yet the focus of the class is the students’ own writing. While exploring the art of making poems, students will engage in exercises both in and out of class that are designed to provoke thought and stimulate the creation of original poems. This class is a safe space for creative play, experimentation with form and voice, and giving and receiving feedback in a small community of empathetic and honest fellow poets.
Classes begin Wednesday, September 10th at 7:30pm and run for 10 weeks.
Cost: $250. Some scholarships are available. Make checks payable to First Presbyterian Church of Brooklyn.
Contact Sian Killingsworth at poetryclasses@gmail.com

August 12: Digital Bookmobile

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From waterbugs to bookmobiles, this OTBKB reader has news of an interesting event sponsored by the Brooklyn Public Library in Prospect Park.

As a new Only the Blog Knows Brooklyn reader–I was brought to your blog looking for a solution to a waterbug problem and have been hooked ever since–I wanted to let you know about an event that is happening in Prospect Park at Grand Army Plaza (behind the Memorial Arch) on this Tuesday, August 12th from 10am to 7pm. The Brooklyn Public Library is sponsoring the Digital Bookmobile, which we hope will further promote our Digital Media Catalog, a downloadable collection of eBooks, eAudiobooks, eMusic, and eVideo. Here is the link to the annoucement of the event on our web site: http://www.brooklynpubliclibrary.org/events/overdrive.jsp

The Brooklyn Public Library will be partnering with Overdrive, a national leader in digital content distribution, to promote downloading services available in our libraries. Overdrive has constructed an 18 wheel high tech tractor trailer educational experience called the Digital Bookmobile, which will be touring public libraries throughout the country.

The Digital Bookmobile will connect and instruct patrons about the Brooklyn Public Library’s online catalog and Digital Media Catalog (eAudiobooks, eBooks, eMusic, and eVideo). On board the Digital Bookmobile, library users can take part in hands-on training using web connected PCs, interactive displays, portable MP3 players, and exhibits. Brooklyn Public Library staff members will be around to help with library card registration, online public catalog searching, and general questions about the Brooklyn Public Library.

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Second Solo Album From Simone Dinnerstein

SimoneberlincoversmA second solo album from Telarc, a release party at (Le) Poison Rouge: Simone Dinnerstein is on a roll:

Park Slope pianist Simone Dinnerstein will celebrate the release of her second solo album, “The Berlin Concert” (Telarc 80715), by returning to (Le) Poisson Rouge on Thursday, August 28 for a CD release party and performance. In June, Ms. Dinnerstein was the first classical musician to perform at the new multimedia art cabaret, located at the site of the historic Village Gate at 158 Bleecker Street in NYC. On August 28, she will perform Bach’s French Suite No. 5 in G major and Philip Lasser’s Twelve Variations on a Chorale by J.S. Bach, which are included on her new CD. Doors open at 7 pm, and the concert begins at approximately 7:30 pm. Seating is on a first-come, first-served, general admission basis. Brewery Ommegang will provide one complimentary Ommegang beer for each audience member over the age of 21.

“The Berlin Concert” is a live recording of Ms. Dinnerstein’s recital debut at the Kammermusiksaal of the Philharmonie in Berlin , which took place on November 22, 2007. The program features J.S. Bach’s French Suite No. 5 in G major, BWV 816; the world premiere recording of American composer Philip Lasser’s Variations on a Bach Chorale; and Beethoven’s landmark Sonata No. 32 in C minor, Op. 111. Grammy Award-winning engineer Adam Abeshouse produced the CD.

Ms. Dinnerstein chose this program because of how the pieces speak to each other, and because of their relationship to the music of Bach. She explains, “My hope was to program a group of pieces that would contrast with and relate to each other, despite being separated by hundreds of years. So much music written since Bach has been influenced by him, and the Beethoven and the Lasser recorded here are no exceptions.

Philip Lasser’s variations on the very dark Bach chorale, Nimm von uns, Herr, du treuer Gott (Take from us, Lord, Thou faithful God), draw on Bach’s intense and meditative side. Lasser’s writing is intricately crafted and encompasses a range of styles, from a contrapuntal energy reminiscent of Bach, to French Impressionism and even jazz. Beethoven’s Opus 111 sounds surprisingly contemporary in this company. The first movement looks ahead to Liszt and the second movement, with its set of variations on a chorale-like arietta, looks back to Bach and ahead to jazz. All three works are densely layered, but also have a sense of freedom and directness of expression. Though they span almost 300 years, in many ways, to me, they each feel grounded in the present.”

The Oh So Prolific One: Leon Freilich, Verse Responder

Task-Task, Tsk Tsk

Multitasking began

With the original man:

Adam gathered fruit

That he knew would suit

Eve, his Eden bride

Always at his side.

Simultaneously

He prayed–so earnestly

To his maker-God

(Which He above thought odd)

That when they came to some bridge

Eve took jealous umbrage,

And signaled the snake who’d made

Overtures in the shade

Promising a life

Superior to that of a wife

And let her jealousy

Squash all loyalty.

Then as everyone knows,

Taste-of-the-apple and close.

Bye bye Edenic basking–

Thanks to multitasking

The meaning behind all this

Hip-hop in Genesis?

To keep your significant other

Unitask, earth brother.

Murder at Lookout Hill Still a Mystery

A Year in the Park reports on last week’s murder at Lookout Hill in Prospect Park. Here’s an excerpt. Go to her blog for pictures. The story hasn’t gotten much coverage. Nor have the police found his killer or a motive for this mysterious death.

A man beaten to death in Prospect Park has been identified, but his killer and the motive for his death remain a mystery.

Mohammed Afzaf, 41, was found with a massive head wound in a wooded area near a jogging path on Wednesday, police said.

The medical examiner said Thursday that his death was a homicide.

Afzaf suffered from mental illness and had spent time in a hospital being treated, said his imam, Abdul Rashid. He had been homeless for six months, a former employer said.

This sketchy report raises more questions than it answers. For one thing, the man’s name may be wrong; “Afzaf” is virtually a “Googlenope” (writer Gene Weingarten’s neologism for a search term that comes up empty), whereas “Afzal” is apparently a common name, particularly in connection with Pakistanis.

Nearby, the swans were unruffled. Poor Mr. A, no wonder they took no notice. Homeless, mentally ill, and Muslim: victim-wise, that’s hitting the trifecta for media apathy. Imagine if it had been a young, blonde female Episcopalian—an out-of-work actress, perhaps—whose body lay up on the hill for two days. Even the swans would have wept and demanded big headlines, heart-rending sidebars, and frequent updates on the hunt for the killer.

NOB: Saturday’s Wondrous Event

Neil Feldman, publisher of Not Only Brooklyn (NOB) says it’s the Bill Withers Tribute on Saturday night that’s his Of course. Subscribe to Not Only Brooklyn, Wondrous Free Arts and Events, a great resource for NYC culture vultures. Email arbrunr(at)yahoo(dot)com with the message “Subscribe to NOB” and your first and last name, so it is legal to add you to the subscription list

7:00: Celebrate Brooklyn ends its season with another of the wondrous Hal Willner tributes featuring a panoply of excellent artists interpreting the works of one musical visionary. Tonight, hear the songs of Bill Withers (born 1938) covered by ANGELIQUE KIDJO, NONA HENDRYX, THE SWELL SEASON, COREY GLOVER, JAMES “BLOOD” ULMER, SANDRA ST. VICTOR, THE PERSUASIONS, ERIC MINGUS and many more! FREE, but $3 at the gate keeps it great. Prospect Park Bandshell near 9th St & Prospect Park West

Anniversary of the Bay Ridge Tornado

Last year at this time there was a tornado in Brooklyn. Here’s the OTBKB story from last year:

A CRAZY MORNING IN BROOKLYN

The storm lasted maybe an hour but it was very intense and thunder and lightening woke many Brooklynites. It managed to unleash a tornado that touched Staten Island, but whipped through southwestern Brooklyn at breakneck speed with winds going 135 miles an hour.

This all happened before the morning rush hour and managed to paralyze the transit system, flooding tracks, tunnels, and major thoroughfares.

In Park Slope, there was gushing water everywhere. Met Food on Seventh Avenue near 2nd Street was filled with water, as was their basement. The storm wreaked havoc all over the Slope. Water filled the Grand Army Plaza train station making it look, one friend told me, “like there had been a mudslide.”

All day, readers sent pictures from Bay Ridge which looked like a major disaster area with fallen trees, wrecked cars, broken windows and damaged buidlings. Ditmas Park also had many fallen trees and building damage.

By 9 am it was a bright sunny day and if you weren’t reading a blog or listening to the news you might not have known that there had been a serious storm.

OTBKB readers who left early for the subway were shocked to find that the trains weren’t running. Many people just gave up and stayed home. Others waited hours for trains. One reader did get a train out of Grand Army Plaza, after waiting an hour, but it only went to Atlantic Avenue, where she waited for a R train and then gave up.

Free Bob Dylan Tickets: Take The Quiz

That’s right. The Brooklyn Paper is having some kind of giveaway:

Sure, Bob Dylan’s Aug. 12 concert in Prospect Park is sold out — but you can still get a pair of tickets, courtesy of your friends at The Brooklyn Paper.

Of course, there’s a catch: In order to see Dylan, you have to know Dylan. Our resident Dylanologist, Dr. Lawrence Gardner, has put together a seven-question Zimmerman quiz — so you’d better know your “Caribbean Wind” from your “Visions of Johanna.”

Fill in your answers and send them back to us by Sunday, Aug. 10 at 10 pm. The winning entry will be chosen at random from among the correct responses.

Hair in Central Park on a Summer Night: Thrilling

Alg_hair1_2I kid you not: Just as the tribe of beautiful performers dressed as hippies began to sing “Let the Sunshine In” during the opening night performance of “Hair” at the Delacorte Theater in Central Park, it began to rain ferociously.

While audience members popped their umbrellas, the cast members seemed to revel in the downpour during this, their climatic moment in an evening of memorable moments. It was an intoxicating rain dance and the line between artifice and reality just slipped away; an unforgettable ending to a wildly energetic and stirring revival of the great 1960’s tribal rock musical.

But that’s not all. Moments later, hundreds of people from the audience joined the cast on stage and danced uproariously for the length of the informal curtain call.

A ravishing and crowded mesh of New Yorkers up on the stage in the rain dancing to the music of “Hair.” That was an unforgettable moment for me and it was indicative of the way this production captures the imagination of a new generation of theater-goers, as well as boomers like myself who wore out their copy of the Hair album (and can sing along with every song but I didn’t).

My friend Anna Becker, producer of Life in a Marital Institution, James Braly’s virtuosic monologue at the Soho Playhouse, who took me to opening night, actually saw Hair as a 7-year old during its original run at the Public Theater.

It was hard not to be enthralled with the overall emotion of the evening.”Hair” is truly a classic show with a pantheon of great songs. The first act alone is is a veritable hit parade: Aquarius, Donna, Sodomy, Manchester, England, Air, I Got Life, Initials, Hair, My Conviction, Easy to Be Hard, Frank Mills, Hare Krishna and Where Do I Go.

The second act is darker and more narrative in a way. Much of it is a long hallucination about Vietnam and it contains some of my favorites like Walking in Space, Three-Five-Zero_Zero, The Flesh Failures, Let the Sunshine In and the transcendent What a Piece of Work is Man (lyrics by Shakespeare).

As someone who knows the score backwards and forwards, I will admit to some disappointments. Easy To Be Hard and Good Morning Starshine were totally lackluster. Frank Mills was slightly better. Overall the cast numbers were the best. Tony nominated Jonathan Groff from Spring Awakening gave a great performances, as did Will Swenson as Berger and Bryce Ryness as Woof. Patina Renea Miller, who sang Aquarius and other great numbers, also deserves special mention.

The show’s dramatic ark goes from euphoric hippydom to the darker realities. The song “Where Do I Go” perfectly encapsulates the feeling of the show in the second act: you can drop out but you can’t really escape what’s to come. In addition to growing up, the harsher realities of the world awaits these beautiful flower children.

This production of “Hair” is a history play that expertly transports the audience to the collective joy of the 1960’s without hiding the darker elements of war, drugs, sex without love, sexism, and aging.

The future awaits. And we all know that show.

A Lot of Work and Block Spirit on Brooklyn’s Greenest Block

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Talking to residents of 8th Street between 8th Avenue and the Park, it was obvious why they were chosen as the Greenest Block in Brooklyn.

Block spirit!

Winners of the annual contest sponsored by the Brooklyn Botanic Garden and Greenbridge were selected by an expert panel of judges that included professional horticulturists from Brooklyn Botanic Garden, metro area horticulture professionals, gardening journalists, and other New York City greening organizations.

Mike and Joanne Dowding, whose 8th Street stoop was festooned with giant, tropical-looking elephant ear leaves, said that the block really pulled together with parties and events where everyone worked together. "And the opening of the tree pits. That really made a difference," he added.

Thandi Center of 8th Street said it was "the time and energy that people put into this" that resulted in their win.  According to Center, both sides of the block worked together on this effortful project. And it wasn’t just single family homes. "People in the apartment buildings got involved, too," she said.

"The block has come a long way in a year,"  Center said. She also cited events like the Wine and Mulch, a fun way to bring neighbors together for gardening activities. 

Borough President Marty Markowitz, who lives around the corner from the winning block, told the crowd that Park Slope is one of the most  beautiful places to live in the city and in the state.

"Tip of the trowel to the winning block in the most beautiful borough. There are no losers. This is just one more green jewel to our crown."

The second place tie for greenest block went to the East 25th Street Block Association in East Flatbush and the Sate Street Cathedral Block Asociation in Boerum.

The third place tie went to Schenectady Avenue Block Association in East Flatbush and the Bainbrige Homeowners and Tenants Block Association in Bed-Stuy.

In the commercial category, Bond Street from Atlantic to Pacific was the big winner. Innovative and environmentally sound irrigation techniques were cited. For the greenest storefront, first place went to Cake Man Raven at 708 Fulton Street.

Best window box award went to Kathy Geisler at 353 State Street. In Second place, Donna and Edward Drakes in Bed-Stuy (pictured).

So many neighborhoods were represented and it was a very diverse crowd at the ceremony on 8th Street.  I believe Bed-Stuy may have won the most awards but there were winners and runners-ups from Crown Heights, Fort Greene, Prospect Heights, Boerum Hill, Prospect Park South Lefferts Gardens, Clinton Hill, Sheepshead Bay, Downtown, and East Flatbush.

For a complete list of winners, runner ups, and honorable mentions, go to the Brooklyn Botanic Garden website.   

Brooklyn Pols Urge LICH Not To Shut Down Its Maternity Ward

Local elected officials and community activists called on Long Island College Hospital (LICH) to reconsider its decision to shut down its maternity ward, and create a long-term plan for combating its financial problems. LICH is run by Continuum Health Partners, which also manages Beth Israel Medical Center and St. Luke’s-Roosevelt Hospital Center in Manhattan.

Councilmember De Blasio:
“I am deeply disturbed by LICH’s recent decisions to close its maternity ward and rape crisis intervention program. Without these important components of the hospital, Brooklyn residents will not have access to the direct health care services they need and deserve. LICH must stop taking services away from Brooklyn families and work with the community to create a long-term plan for combating its financial problems.

“Maternity ward closings are becoming a Brooklyn-wide problem. Last December, Victory Memorial Hospital in Bay Ridge shut down its labor and delivery unit due to financial troubles. In addition, Interfaith Medical Center in Bedford-Stuyvesant closed its maternity ward in 2004, and St. Mary’s Hospital closed down entirely in 2005.

“As Long Island College Hospital continues to dismantle its services, our neighbors suffer. It’s time for Continuum to create a long-term plan that will ensure the community has access to quality medical care in their home borough,”

Congresswoman Nydia M. Velázquez:
“Brooklyn deserves a hospital that puts the health of our hard-working families at the top of its priority list.”

Councilmember Letitia James.
“Maternity and rape crisis intervention services are vital to many of Brooklyn’s residents and families. We can not stand idly by while LICH takes these important services away from the community, while failing to present a long-term plan for its financial stability.”

State Senator Martin Connor:
“Our neighborhoods of Brooklyn Heights, Boerum Hill, Cobble Hill and DUMBO have become home to many young families with young children with the potential of many more children on the way. It would be a tragedy for LICH to close their OB/GYN and pediatric departments when these families most need these services. I wholeheartedly support my community and the doctors and other hospital personnel in this fight to stop the dismantling of this important medical facility by Continuum Health Care. I have already contacted the New York State Department of Health to let them know how concerned I am about the proposed termination of these services at LICH.”

Assemblywoman Joan Millman
“I am deeply concerned about the possible closing of Long Island College Hospital’s maternity ward. It sets a dangerous precedent for closing any unprofitable department with little regard to the actual needs of the community. I know the State Department of Health will work with Continuum Health Partners to explore every option to ensure LICH remains a full-service neighborhood hospital.

Councilmember Gonzalez:
“For 150 years LICH has provided vital services for all of downtown Brooklyn and surrounding communities. To watch it being dismantled, piece-by-piece is both alarming and disheartening. R are vital services, not commodities, and the people of Brooklyn can ill afford fewer health care alternatives. I am convinced Continuum is not considering the human element or the needs of the Borough of Brooklyn in their decision-making process. I call on them to do so.”

Is Whole Foods Still Coming to Park Slope?

Here’s note from an OTBKB reader about Whole Foods:

I came across an item that I thought might be of interest. I read in the business section of the Times Wednesday that Whole Foods isn’t doing so well, and “would reduce the number of stores it plans to open in fiscal 2009 to 15, instead of 25 or 30.”

So, I am curious if that would affect the Whole Foods that is planned for 3rd Avenue. I haven’t been following that whole story so closely–I think I heard that there were environmental remediation issues that had to be dealt with. Anyway, maybe that store might be one of the ones on the chopping block. (Unlike much of Park Slope, I am sort of hoping the store doesn’t open; I don’t want to see anything happen to the Park Slope Food Coop).

8th Street Not Green Enough For The Brooklyn Paper?

The real reason Park Slope’s 8th Street (between 8th Avenue and the Park) snagged the Greenest Block award this year is because the block has fantastic team spirit and everyone came together—young, old, brownstoners and apartment dwellers—to do a little something to make the block green and special.

No, it’s not the Botanical Gardens over there. In fact, 8th Street between 7th and 8th Avenues is even more lush. But there was clearly a great spirit of cooperation and hard work on the winning block and I think that’s probably what convinced the judges that they deserved the shout-out Block dwellers like Thandie Center also said that the block has come a long way since last year when they embarked on this energetic group effort.

So sour grapes from Gersh, who I saw at the ceremony. He was none-too-impressed. But that’s okay. Quite a few of us were. Here’s an excerpt from Gersh’s scathing column (/brooklynpaper.com/stories/31/31/31_31_gk_green_angle.html):

I came to compost Eighth Street, not to praise it. Yes, I was there on Wednesday, when the gray expanse between Eighth Avenue and Prospect Park West was named the “Greenest Block in Brooklyn” by the Brooklyn Botanic Garden.

Up and down the block, I saw well-maintained tree beds. I gazed at beautiful window boxes. I inhaled the lush fragrance of begonias, impatiens and rugelach (oh, sorry, that was the refreshments table). I rolled around in mulch.

But there’s one problem with the Botanic Garden’s announcement: This ain’t the greenest block in Brooklyn.

Yes, there beautiful sweet potato vine arrangements, but there are also filthy, exposed garbage cans. Yes, the tree pits look like the Ritz, but some houses have cement courtyards without so much as a drop of green paint.

Sorry to stick a green thumb in the eye of the borough’s horticultural elite, but calling Eighth Street between Prospect Park West and Eighth Avenue the “greenest block” is a decision that will tarnish the Brooklyn Botanic Garden worse than the High Court was damaged by Bush v. Gore.

Full disclosure: I visit this Eighth Street block all the time because my daughter is close friends with another 6-year-old on the block. Yet in all those visits, I never once leaned in close to my wife and said, “Boy, what a green block! I wish we could sell our apartment — at a loss, even! — to move to such verdant splendor.

Strange Death in Brooklyn Heights: Murder No Longer Suspected

My stepmother just called to say that there was a murder in Brooklyn Heights yesterday. Interestingly, I was in Brooklyn Heights until about 4:30 yesterday. I noticed that there was a police presence at Grand Army Plaza but that may have been unrelated. It turns out that it was not a murder. Police have ruled out criminality. Still, it’s a strange kind of death. Found in a bathtub with stab wounds.

My stepmother told me that Clark and Hicks Street were closed off yesterday and residents were required to show ID. Last night, she and my dad saw helicopters with search lights. She told me to look on the Brooklyn Heights Blog so I did. Here’s the story from yesterday.

The Brooklyn Eagle is reporting that a 42-year-old man was found dead in his apartment at 166 Hicks Street between Clark and Pierrepont. Reportedly stabbed to death in his bathtub (see update 2 below). We’ve received reports that Hicks Street around Clark Street has been cordoned off by the police as they investigate the crime.

Update: NYPD is on the scene. Current word is that authorities have not determined if the death was a murder or suicide.

Update 2 from BHB’s Weegee: The police have identified the victim as Graham Barnett, 42, of 166 Hicks Street. He was pronounced dead by EMS at 4:15 p.m., (on Tuesday) and was found to have multiple stab wounds to the torso. Cops recovered knives at the scene, and do not suspect criminality. Barnett’s wife was being questioned at the 84th Precinct.

Update 3: The NY Sun is the first paper with a blurb, reiterating weegee’s report that the police do not suspect criminality:

McBrooklyn also has the story with pictures.

Park Slope Block Wins Greenest Block in Brooklyn!

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Yup, 8th Street between 8th Avenue and Prospect Park West is the winner of the annual Greenest Block in Brooklyn contest. The festivities were from 10-12 this morning. The press, the president of the Brooklyn Botanic Gardens and plenty of politicians were there as were winners in other categories, neighbors and friends. The competition was described as friendly but fierce and 8th Street was cited for the way the entire block pulled together to beautify their block, with window boxes, tree pits, and attractive container gardens.

Yesiree, it’s a gorgeous Park Slope block with loads of community spirit. Kudo’s to everyone who lives there and gardens so beautifully!

In the pix many of the 8th Street green thumbs and loads of local officials.

Au Contraire: Overparenting Kills

Here’s a post from the always provocative Peter Loffredo of Full Permission Living.

By Peter Loffredo

Somebody turned me onto this article and book, “A NATION OF WIMPS,” yesterday on a subject that I write and yell about a lot – how we’re gutting our children’s self-confidence and creating a class of whiny and seriously damaged narcissists by over-parenting. The author is Hara Estroff Marano, editor of Psychology Today.

Here are some excerpts from Marano:

“The 1990s witnessed a landmark reversal in the traditional patterns of psychopathology. While rates of depression rise with advancing age among people over 40, they’re now increasing fastest among children, striking more children at younger and younger ages.”

“The perpetual access to parents infantilizes the young, keeping them in a permanent state of dependency. Whenever the slightest difficulty arises, they’re constantly referring to their parents for guidance. They’re not learning how to manage for themselves.”

“In his now-famous studies of how children’s temperaments play out, Harvard psychologist Jerome Kagan has shown unequivocally that what creates anxious children is parents hovering and protecting them from stressful experiences. Overparenting can program the nervous system to create lifelong vulnerability to anxiety and depression.”

The article and book goes on, of course, but the bottom line is this – overparenting isn’t about love; it’s about ego. EGO! If there’s even one parent reading this who can hear me, listen up: every time you hover or cover for your child, every time you pamper or prop them up, every time you “sacrifice” adult activities to feed your child’s demands, you are not coming from a place of love. You are looking to BE loved from your own place of low self-worth and damaged self-esteem. In other words, you are being selfish, not generous, needy, not giving, and you are stunting and robbing your children, not raising them. Get into therapy! Get a life! Leave your kids alone!!

NOB Recommends: Wondrous Event of the Day

I love Neil Feldman’s e-newsletter Not Only Brooklyn, Wondrous Free Arts and Events in Brooklyn but not limitied to Brooklyn. I urge all Brooklynites interested in the cultural bounty this borough has to offer to subscribe to NOB. All you gotta do is send an email to arbrunr@aol.com with the message “Subscribe to NOB” and your first and last name, so it is legal to add you to the subscription list. Tell him OTBKB told you about it.
And NOB’s Wondrous Event of the Day:

* 6-9:45: Brooklyn Bridge Park: Music At The Bridge Welcomes Union Hall The two year old bar has been presenting an eclectic selection of indie music, comedy, literary readings, and one of NOB’s favorite events, the monthly Secret Science Club when brilliant scientists, including Nobel laureates, make things comprehensible, and maybe even funny, to all of us non-brainiacs who have not looked at a science book since high school. So tonight Brooklyn performer, writer and comedian Dave Hill emcees an program that begins at 6:30 with physicist David Maiullo of Rutgers Univ performing fascinating experiments that will make your hair stand on end, literally. At 7 siblings Ivan and Ada AKA Tiny Masters of Today perform pubescent pop. The Headlights come on at 7:40 followed by French Kicks at 8:45. FREE! Dock St & Water St

Today is 63rd Anniversary of the Dropping of the Bomb on Hiroshima

The Bay Ridge Interfaith Peace Coalition is sponsoring a film showing commemorating the 63rd annual Hiroshima Day.

Conviction, an award-winning documentary film about three Dominican nuns convicted and sentenced to Federal Prison for their non-violent protest at a Minuteman III missile site in northern Colorado. This film evokes important conversations about faith-based political action, the role of nuclear weapons in national defense, and the role of international law in federal courts. Directed/Produced by Brenda Truelson Fox.

Approximate running time: 43 minutes. Discussion will follow the film.

For more information visit: http://www.jonahhouse.org/UN.htm

Location: Hotel Gregory, 8315 4th Avenue (near 84th Street), Bay Ridge, Brooklyn.
Train: R to 86th Street

Sponsors: Bay Ridge Interfaith Peace Coalition, Peace Action New York State, and Peace Action — Bay Ridge
Endorsed By: Brooklyn For Peace

The Oh So Prolific One: Leon Freilich, Verse Responder

The Big City

Just off the airport bus at Grand Central,
A family of four
Puts down their bags while Mom seeks info
On subways at a store.

“It’s this way,” she tells her kids and Dad,
“A train called the Shuttle goes
To our hotel where we can all
Unpack and change our clothes.”

The couple and their solemn daughters,
Who look about seven and ten,
Walk down the ramp in the direction
Of subway-card selling men.

And Mom reaches into a fabric bag
For helmets she knew to prepare:
“Now girls, let’s tie these tightly on–
It could be rough down there.”

Louis and Capathia at Iridium

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Last night at Iridium, a basement jazz club on Broadway and 51st Street, Park Slope’s Louis Rosen, Capathia Jenkins, their superb band, and world renowned poet Nikki Giovanni (and professor of English at Virginia Tech University) wowed the crowd with a stirring performance of songs from their new CD “An Ounce of Truth: The Nikki Giovanni Songs.”

Giovanni spoke briefly during the show and read three of the poems that Rosen has turned into songs. Singing along quietly with the songs, Giovanni is obviously thrilled with the music, which “bring the poems to a new level,” she said.

It’s always interesting to hear the spoken word and then the musical adaptation. Giovanni’s comments were fun and telling:

“I don’t want people to think I’m always horny,” she told the crowd after a performance of the sultry and sexy song called “All I Gotta Do (Is Sit and Wait).

But the songs are about way more than sex. “Telephone Song” is a joyful song about female friendship and the phone call and “The Black Loom” is about the arts that artists have woven from the African-American influence (careful baby don’t prick your fingers).”

About “That Day” an unabashedly sexy song Louis said: “There are a lot of love songs that are really about sex. This is a sexy song that is really about love.”

Sad to say, this was the last Louis and Capathia show at Iridium for the summer.

Happy to announce: Louis and Capathia with their superb band will be at the Brooklyn Public Library Dweck Center (at the Grand Army branch) on October 14th at 4 p.m.

The Greenest Block in Brooklyn Is…

This morning, the Brooklyn Botanic Garden’s Brooklyn GreenBridge announces the winners of the 14th annual Greenest Block in Brooklyn Contest. This year nearly 230 blocks participated in this annual event.

More than 120,000 Brooklyn residents and business participated in this borough-wide greening effort.
Contest winners were selected through a rigorous process by an expert panel of judges that included professional horticulturists from Brooklyn Botanic Garden, metro area horticulture professionals, gardening journalists, and other New York City greening organizations.

First Prize is a $300 check for each top residential and commercial block winner. All other finalists will receive cash prizes ranging from $100–$200. Best Window Box, Storefront, and Street Tree Beds winners will receive cash prizes or gardening tools, and all participants will be awarded a recognition certificate.

I will keep you posted…

Benefit for Kensington Kitties: Comedy Event

Hillary, the blue-haired cashier at Shawn’s Liquors and one of the Park Slope 100 from 2006, is also a dedicated and nurturing cat rescuer; she fosters something like twenty cats. The following is about a fundraising event for the group she fosters for.

The Broadway Comedy Club at 318 West 53rd Street (between 8th and 9th Avenues) has generously donated Friday night, August 22 to us to hold a fabulous, much needed fundraiser, a night of Comedy to benefit Kensington Kitties – Rescue and Adoption Group – desperately in need of space and resources! Top names in Comedy are coming out to lay on the laughs for us!

This benefit will go a long way to saving precious lives! Just this past week, we found Blossom, a very sick 2-week old kitten left to die in 95 degree heat in a shoe box on the street and two kittens we are now bottlefeeding because they were abandoned by their mother in a backyard (see photos below.) This benefit will help us keep Blossom and others alive and find them new homes. We would love you to join us! We depend on your kindness, generosity and love of animals. We need your support to continue rescuing abandoned, unwanted and unfortunate cats and kittens.

C’mon all you cat people! LOVE, LAUGH, MAKE A DIFFERENCE
See you there! Doors open at 7:30, show at 8 sharp!
$20 purr person….

Call for Brooklyn-Focused Documentaries

I just got this email from someone over at the Brooklyn Film & Arts Festival set for December 2008. It’s a call for Brooklyn-focused Documentaries. The films will be screened at the Brooklyn Historical Society.

The Brooklyn Film & Arts Festival is currently accepting submissions of Brooklyn-focused documentaries for our December, 2008 screening at the Brooklyn Historical Society.

The Brooklyn Film & Arts Festival documentaries screening program invites filmmakers to submit short documentaries about Brooklyn, Brooklyn history & culture, changing-Brooklyn, Brooklynites, Brooklyn communities, diverse Brooklyn neighborhoods and Brooklyn’s people.

Please visit our website www.FilmBrooklyn.org for more information about the Brooklyn Film & Arts Festival.

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