I spoke to Jane this morning, don't know if you read her
stuff (at my in-laws I discovered a cache of her books from decades ago
and almost stole "em) the new book she wrote could have been useful for us for during the "Dad transition"—now he's here, now he's not.

She's doing a tal and signing a the Park Slope Barnes and Noble on Wednesday February 25th at 7:30 p.m.

From the beloved New York Times columnist, trusted authority on
health, and bestselling author comes this complete guide to everything
you need to know–emotionally, spiritually, and practically–to prepare
for the end of life.

An invaluable road map to putting your
affairs in order–or helping your loved ones do the same–this
comprehensive book will answer every question you might have about what
does and does not help smooth the transition between life and the Great
Beyond. Wise, practical, and characteristically straightforward
throughout, Brody advises on

• the intricacies of a
well-thought-out (and fully spelled-out) living will that health care
practitioners readily understand–and how to designate a health care
proxy.
• planning a funeral or memorial to ensure your wishes are followed, including tips on how to reduce expenses.
• discussing prognoses and treatment options with doctors.
•
your options for controlling pain, shortness of breath, bed sores, and
other physical symptoms–plus the facts on feeding tubes.
• receiving the support you need through hospice care–and suggestions for loved ones and friends who want to help.
• lightening and enlightening your trials by incorporating spirituality into your life.
•
understanding what happens, physically and mentally, when death is
imminent, and recognizing when hand-holding and reassurance, not food
or drink or an oxygen mask or CPR, is the proper course of action.
•
easing your way through the journey of grief by admitting the reality
of the loss, showing your emotions, and allowing yourself the timeyou
feel you need.

No matter your age or current health, preparing
for the inevitable when you are still fully in control of your
faculties ensures that you’ll be in a far better position to enjoy the
time you have left. As Brody notes, “From the start, consider the
finish.”