I love this post I saw on Park Slope Parents today. It’s so honest and real. I don’t feel like a frump but sometimes I want to revamp my look and do something different. Eye shadow. Mascara. New shoes.
Any suggestions for this woman who posted: "How Did I Get To Be Such a Frump?" So far she’s heard about MYR and Lulei for make-up and personal shoppers at Bergdorf’s, Bloomies, Lord and Taylor, and Macy’s…
I just turned 50, and am in desperate need of a makeover. I've been a
stay-at-home mom, can I blame it on that? My makeup and hairstyle is
from 10 years ago, and my wardrobe consists of 8 pairs of black
elastic-waist pants, and different colors of the same Lands End shirt. I wish
I was joking.
I could use some help to look more polished and pulled-together. Where
can I go to get makeup advice geared towards a middle-aged woman? I
don't want to go to a trendy young place.
And hair color and style advice, from someone who understands graying
hair and middle-aged (but still hip) styles?And clothes, on a not very svelt body?
Becca the Stylist is a lovely woman on Bergen Street who works with women of all ages to achieve a style that is uniquely theirs. Her website is here:
http://www.beccathestylist.com
Tell her Courtesan Bling sent you. She’ll know what you mean, even if you don’t.
You’re right, Caroline. I could have been gentler. Sorry. I tend to be very… passionate… about this subject. Too many adults think being a good parent means neglecting themselves, and in particular, neglecting the Eros side of the married-with-children equation, and that is absolutely the worse thing for the kids. Nonetheless, I will try to better mind my bedside manners.
good advice. but perhaps it could be said in a gentler fashion? ouch.
Here’s a very educated guess (as both a parent and psychotherapist in Park Slope): if you’re using “taking care of kids and trying to do your own work” as an excuse for finding “very little time for self-care,” chances are you’re also neglecting your love/sex life as well. Truth is, nothing will get rid of that frumpiness like some romance and passion, and the even better news is nothing is better for kids than having a couple of adults in their lives who are fulfilled in the love-Eros-sex departments. For the emotional health and well-being of your kids, and for a real make-over that counts, get a babysitter and get a life!
What Not to Wear also has a website for advice:
http://tlc.discovery.com/fansites/whatnottowear/whatnottowear.html
and maybe her friends/family can nominate her to be on there!
Damn, that’s harsh. Taking care of kids and trying to do your own work is hard-very little time for self-care.
As for advice, the TLC show “What Not to Wear” might provide interesting hints and strategies.
That is so Park Slope. Why are there so many women walking around in too-short “Mom jeans” and nasty old stained sweatshirts and hair that looks like it hasn’t been washed in a week, much less combed? These are not just mothers of infants, either. How hard is it to make a little bit of an effort? At least take a shower once in a while. Jeez.