Do you ever feel like everyone in your life is finding fault with you?
It’s an awful feeling. Sometimes I think I should walk around with a "Complaints Box" around my neck so that people can write down their complaints and put them in the box.
I feel like shit.
This morning Hepcat made me feel like a terrible mother because I told OSFO four times this weekend that I was going to smack her. (Just an expression by the way, as in: "If you don’t stop whining I’m gonna smack you!" I really had no intention of hitting her. Too hard. Her whining and "I want, I wants" were driving me out of my mind).
Diaper Diva thinks I’m a fair weather sister. That I’m a user. She says I only call her when I need her to watch OSFO or do something for me. When she needs me I am, apparently, nowhere to be found, or incredibly distracted.
Let’s see, who else is finding fault with me.
Last night at bedtime, OSFO regaled Hepcat with all the reasons she wishes Diaper Diva was her mother and not me. She had quite a list in addition to all the times I told her I was going to smack her.
What else?
Being "snubbed" by the PTA didn’t make me feel too great. Especially since I am so involved with that organization. I feel that I can be part of it even if my opinions are different from theirs. I certainly didn’t mean to hurt anyone’s feelings.
Anything else?
My mother hates my blonde hair. My son doesn’t want to confide in me anymore and makes me feel like an annoying bug.
Do you ever feel like you should wear a "Complaints Box" around your neck so that people can register their complaints about you?
If you have any complaints, feel free to mention them here. (Oh boy I can’t wait…)
i don’t like how you refer to yourself in the third person in your column.
I agree with Little Light. I smack my kids all the time and they are turning out all right.
Some of us got spanked for real, so I think OSFO is pretty fortunate.
I can’t speak to your family, but I think readers are way too hard on you! I take great pleasure in your blog every day, and one of the reasons I go out of my way to get the Park Slope paper is to read Smartmom. I don’t have a kid at 321, so I was glad to learn about Ratner’s donation to the PTA; that’s news, and as such, it’s fair game for coverage. Your blog and your column keep me up to date on neighborhood goings-on, they make me think, and they make me laugh. What more could a reader want?
If I was your son I don’t think I’d feel much like confiding in you either. The thought that any “newsworthy” quirk is fodder for tomorrow’s blog is a great reason to keep you out of the loop.
I don’t think telling a kid you are going to smack them is ever appropriate, even if you don’t mean it.