BLUE VELVET

The Daily News asked me why I put the child molester story on my blog. A reason didn’t come immediately to mind. When I am being interviewed I try not to speak too quickly, try not to speak too impulsively.

After thinking about it a bit, I told her that  I saw the letter at 8:30 Friday morning but didn’t blog about it until 4:00 a.m. Saturday morning (As I sometimes do,  I woke up in the middle of the night and wrote the posts).

"This is my beat. You just know when it’s a story you have to tell," I said.

My reasons for doing it had nothing to do with outing a man who may or may not be guilty or humiliating a 13 year old girl, who has already been humiliated enough. I certainly didn’t want to name names or print addresses.

My reason was simple: The note was on my mind and it felt like an important wake up call about the world we live in. This is an issue that sneaked into our idyllic little world on Third Street. Park Slope may seem like a smally town where this kind of thing doesn’t happen.

But it does. It can happen anywhere.

I keep thinking about that David Lynch’s movie, "Blue Velvet," which opens with a simple, idealized "technicolor" depiction of small town life. The slow-motion shots, however, suggest that there is something not quite right with what we are
looking at. When Lynch pushes his  camera through the soft
green grass of a regular front lawn and shows us the slithering insects
that hide in the darkness, we realize that we are going to enter a very dark
world.

There is darkness just below the surface — beneath the facade.

No matter how you look at this story – whether it’s true or not. Whether the man is guilty or not. Whether the mother is telling the truth or not – there’s darkness here. Sadness. Pain.

All my attempts to delay talking to my daughter about it came undone when I was being interviewed by the reporter. She sat down right next to me on the stoop and later wanted to know what was going on. I had to bite the bullet and gently tell her why the reporters were here. It’s hard with a 9-year-old because so much about sexual behavior hasn’t really been discussed in much depth yet.

But I kept it pretty simple: There’s a man who may have touched a girl in a way that was inappropriate. He was much older and it isn’t right for an older person to touch a child…

Just as was getting into it, we saw two police cars in front of the home of the alleged perpetrator. "What are the police cars doing there?" my daughter asked. "Are they coming to get him?  I thought he was in jail already? He should be in jail."

I explained the old "innocent until proven guilty" thing – one of the foundations of democracy. He will be tried in front of a court of law, he will not go to prison unless he is found to be guilty by a jury of his peers.

My attention turned to the door of the building. There was a sign on the door that said, "NEIGHBORS. THE LOCKS HAVE BEEN CHANGED. GO TO APT. X FOR YOUR NEW KEYS."

I walked back across the street and saw a couple, longtime residents of this street,  standing in front of their building across the street wondering what was going on. They were staring but clearly had no idea why the police were there…

"I guess someone tried to break in," the woman said. "Must’ve been an attempted robbery or something."

"No. I think it has something to do with that note on the door," her husband said.
"They’re all pointing to that note on the door. I think it has something to do with that note on the door."

I don’t know what that note on the door means. It’s amazing how much of this story is about notes on a door.

NO HIGH SCHOOL FOR SUNSET PARK

It’s a long, byzantine story of buracracy and disappointment for Sunset Park, which has been waiting for a high school for 37 years. And the residents are ANGRY and Mobilized. Here’s an excerpt from the story in the New York Daily News.

For the third time, the neighborhood was promised a high school in the latest five-year school construction budget, only to see it cut at the last minute because of budget woes.

“It’s been taken away three times, and now people are incensed,” said Julie Stein Brockway, chairwoman of the Sunset Park High School Task Force.

“If this was Park Slope, this wouldn’t happen. If this was Bay Ridge, this wouldn’t happen,” added Brockway, who also heads the Center for Family Life in Sunset Park. “We are going to get this high school this time. The community is way too mobilized.”

Sunset Park is one of only two city community districts without a high school, advocates said.

REPORTERS ON THIRD STREET

I was taking a nap on Saturday afternoon when Hepcat came upstairs. "The Daily News is downstairs, they want to interview you," Hepcat said.

I dragged myself downstairs. "Are you the blogger?" Daily News reporter Celeste Katz asked. there was a photographer there as well.  She said she saw my story on OTBKB and wanted to hear more about the alleged Third Street child molester.

"All of the flyers have been torn down," she said. "And I talked to a lot of people on the block who said they hadn’t heard a thing or seen the flyer."

The reporter did stop by the building where the man lives and rang his intercom. "Speak to my lawyer." he said.

The reporters asked me how I felt. I said that I was concerned, not about this man in particular but about the reality that this sort of thing happens even in the small town of Brooklyn.

And what really concerns me, I said, was how to talk to my children about it. I found a site on the Internet that offered some good advice.

The reporter asked all the usual questions. My age, how long I’ve been blogging. She gave me her card and asked me to give her a call if I found anything else out. Then she asked the photographer to take a picture of me. We decided that I should pose with my computer open to my blog.

A woman walked by who lives in one of the nearby co-ops. She told the reporters that this man works for their building and that he is a very nice man.

Clearly, the situation is tragic for everyone involved. I feel for the girl, I feel for mother. I feel for the man who either has terrible judgement or is emotionally screwed up.

If it is true, I will feel betrayed that one of our neighbors on this very neighborly block would do something to endanger the safety of a child.

If it isn’t true, I feel sick that this man is being subjected to groundless charges.

The scariest thing about all of this is that it is always someone nice, always someone who has won the trust of those around them, that commits this kind of crime.

That is the scariest part of it all.

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REMINDER: THIS SUNDAY NIGHT AT 7 P.M.

2cbw1971_std_2NOT ONLY is there a  great musical event at the Old Stone House this Sunday March 26th. Capathia Jenkins, who was acclaimed in the Public Theater and B’way productions of "Caroline or Change" will be singing songs by award-winning composer Louis Rosen based on the poetry of Maya Angelou, Langston Hughes, and Louis Rosen.

BUT GET THIS: STONE PARK CAFE WILL BE SERVING LIGHT SNACKS AFTER THE SHOW. NOW THAT’S REALLY COOL.  PLUS CHAMPAGNE IS ON THE HOUSE.

LOUIS AND CAPATHIA played to sold-out houses at Joe’s Pub last year and will be there again in the Spring. So catch them in Brooklyn first. It’s their FIRST BROOKLYN APPEARANCE EVER.

SUNDAY MARCH 26th at 7 p.m. Join the festivities. Wine, refreshments from the STONE PARK CAFE,  meet the artists afterward and socialize with your friends and neighbors. Promises to be a great night in support of the Old Stone House’s historical, educational, and cultural programs including Brooklyn Reading Works, Brooklyn Film Works, Piper Summer School and MORE!!!!

EMAIL ME: louisecrawford@gmail.com if you need info or tickets. For directions: The Old Stone House web site

CHILD MOLESTER ON THIRD STREET?

Many residents of Third Street woke up on Friday to find a letter on the front door of their apartment buildings or in their vestibules from a mother who lives near here.

"This is one of the most difficult things I’ve ever done, but if I heard that another child was molested because I kept my mouth shut, I would not be able to live with myself."

She described the man as someone who lives on this block, too.

"My family has used him for at least five years. He had keys and access to our building and has shown me on numerous occasion other keys for other building, many on this block."

She went on to write:

"(This man) has succeeded in seducing and molesting my 13 y.o. daughter, this apparently has been going on for a few months…I called the police and he was arrested and charged with multiple counts of sexual abuse, endangering the welfare of a minor, and attempted rape. He is out of jail on bail."

I of course will not post the name of this man for a number of reasons even though she provided his name and address. I have no way of proving the veracity of this note. I don’t even know if the writer really exists. She did give an email address and I plan to get in touch with her. I am inclined to think the letter is authentic and that the incident occurred. But I really don’t know.

Some of the moms on Third Street are trying to figure out what to do. We feel the need to share this information with our daughters in an age-appropriate way. But just how do you do that?

The thought of something like this happening to our children is frightening. A neighbor spoke to the guidance counselor at PS 321 for advice in this regard. I look forward to hearing what she had to say. In the meantime, I am haunted by the last paragraph of the note written by this mother, who describes herself as a single mom and a neighbor with RN, BSN, CNM degrees:

"Please talk to your children, hold them close. I could not bear the thought of this happening to anyone else’s child."

HOW TO TALK TO KIDS ABOUT CHILD ABUSE

This is from a site called:  National Center for Missing and Exploited Kids.
I think they have good information about how to talk to kids, and what parents should know. Scary stuff. But VERY IMPORTANT to be aware of.

What are the most important things a parent should know when talking to a child about this issue?

1. Don’t forget your older children. Children aged 11 to17 are equally at risk to victimization. At the same time you are giving your older children more freedom, make sure they understand important safety rules as well.

2. When you speak to your children, do so in a calm, nonthreatening manner. Children do not need to be frightened to get the point across. Fear can actually work at cross-purposes to the safety message, because fear can be paralyzing to a child.

3. Speak openly about safety issues. Children will be less likely to come to you if the issue is enshrouded in secrecy. If they feel that you are comfortable discussing the subject matter, they may be more forthcoming to you.

4. Do not confuse children with the concept of “strangers.” Children do not have the same understanding of who a stranger is as an adult might. The “stranger-danger” message is not effective, as danger to children is much greater from someone you or they know than from a “stranger.”

5. Practice what you talk about. You may think your children understand your message, but until they can incorporate it into their daily lives, it may not be clearly understood. Find opportunities to practice “what if” scenarios.

6. Teach your children that it is more important to get out of a threatening situation, than it is to be polite. They also need to know that it is okay to tell you what happened, and they won’t be a tattletale.

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What are the most important things a parent should tell a child about this issue?

1. Children should always check first with you or a trusted adult before they go anywhere, accept anything, or get into a car with anyone.  This applies to older children as well.

2. Children should not go out alone and should always take a friend with them when they go places or play outside.

3. It’s okay to say no if someone tries to touch them or treats them in a way that makes them feel scared, uncomfortable, or confused and to get out of the situation as quickly as possible.

4. Children need to know that they can tell you or a trusted adult if they feel scared, uncomfortable, or confused.

5. Children need to know that there will always be someone to help them, and they have the right to be safe.

What is the biggest myth surrounding this issue?

The biggest myth is that the dangers to children come from strangers. In the majority of cases, the perpetrator is someone the parents or child knows, and that person may be in a position of trust or responsibility to the child and family.

What advice would you offer a parent who wanted to talk to their child about this issue?

Parents should choose opportunities or “teachable” moments to reinforce safety skills. If an incident occurs in your community, and your child asks you about it, speak frankly but with reassurance. Explain to your children that you want to discuss the safety rules with them, so that they will know what to do if they are ever confronted with a difficult situation. Make sure you have “safety nets” in place, so that your children know there is always someone who can help them.

Tips reprinted from Know the Rules…General Parental Tips to Help Keep Your Children Safer. Copyright© 2000 National Center for Missing & Exploited Children(NCMEC). All rights reserved.

THE TALK ON THIRD STREET

I saw the note on the mirror in the vestibule of our building where our mailboxes are. It was probably left outside the building and someone from the building attached it with a Post-It to the mirror.

OSFO and I were on our way to school, rushing off as usual. I glanced at a few of the words and got the gist…

"This is one of the most difficult things I’ve ever done, but if I heard that another child was molested because I kept my mouth shut…"

I didn’t stop to read it because I was with 9-year-old OSFO and I knew it would be incredibly complicated and difficult explain and that she’d want to know EVERYTHING and I wasn’t quite prepared to do that — or to figure out what to say — quite so early in the morning.

It flew out of my mind until I saw a neighbor who lives across the street in the administration office at PS 321. I handed her a postcard about Louis and Capathia’s concert at The Old Stone House on Sunday night and we started talking about Smartmom. Then she whispered, "Did you see the note?"

Her biggest concern was how to talk to her daughter about it. That’s why she was waiting to talk to Kathy Sweeney, the guidance counselor at PS 321, to see if she had any advice.

The victim was 13 years old. Such a vulnerable age, an intense time. My thoughts are with her. Wondering, wondering. Do I know her face, is she someone we know by sight? How does she feel about this being spread around the neighborhood? How is she dealing with all this, is she okay?

Reading the letter again, very closely, I tried to analyze its use of language, its typos, its commas. Trying to piece this story together word by word. At this point, I have no way of proving the veracity of this. It was, afterall, just a note left on the mirror. I take it to be true. Do I really know what is going on here? No.

Later, one of my neighbors brought it up. She too was spooked by the whole thing. I think we’re all having a: "What? Not on my block!" kind of reaction. This is such a neighborly block, we all think we know each other so well. Of course we don’t. This is a big city even if it does feel like a small town.

And stuff like this happens everywhere – in small towns, in big cities, in Brooklyn all the time.

We on the north side of Third Street often joke that we don’t know anything about the south side of Third Street. And I guess that’s true. Nobody crosses the street to socialize, we say: It’s too wide a street. 

We have no idea who this man is. It just doesn’t ring a bell. Who is he? Is he someone we know, someone we would recognize?

If this can happen here it can happen anywhere. No one’s safe from this kind of thing. Once you know, it changes every thing a little bit. Lock your doors (even if he does have keys). Hold your children close. Keep them informed, not scared, but informed. Empower them.

Read the post: HOW TO TALK TO YOUR CHILD ABOUT CHILD ABUSE (ABOVE).

BRUSH UP YOUR SHAKESPEARE AT THE OLD STONE HOUSE

Sign your child up for Piper Summer School at the Old Stone House, Summer Shakespeare workshops for students ages 7-19. July 3-28.  Daily 9 am to 5pm.  (3 pm for ages 7-10).

I looked up Piper Theater online and found this about it and its founders John and Rachel McEneny. If McEneny rings a bell, he’s the beloved and WILDLY TALENTED theater teacher/director at MS 51. He’s obviously been doing a lot in Yonkers. AND NOW: he’s bringing PIPER THEATER TO BROOKLYN. WE ARE BLESSED.

Piper Theatre Productions was establishedin 2001 by John and Rachel McEneny to develop arts and culture in the City of Yonkers as a way to foster economic development, tourism, and an enhanced quality of life.

We work to develop emerging artists and produce artistic works for the entire community of Yonkers. In addition, through mentoring and collaboration with adults, we help young people to become creative, hardworking members of society.

For more information about PIPER THEATER AT THE OLD STONE HOUSE CALL: 718-768-3195, or e-mail oldstonehouse@verizon.net Public workshop performances will take place outdoors in JJ Byrne Park July 14, 26, 27 and 28.

TALL-BIKE CULTURE IN BROOKLYN

Tucker6 In the Village Voice this week, a story called:  "Mutant Bike Gangs of New York:  Tall bike clubs live free, ride high, and don’t want your stinking logos"

The headline caught my eye but I didn’t read the article. Then I found a link to it on A Brooklyn Life and found out that it is a Park Slope story AND a Brooklyn Industries story.

Seems that Brooklyn Industries was the target of some rather agressive graffiti. Check this story out at The Village Voice.

"Bike Culture Not for Sale," read the runny white lettering found
February 23 on the glass at the four Brooklyn Industries outlets in
Manhattan and Brooklyn.

The Park Slope store’s assistant manager, McKenzie Rollins,
first spotted trouble when she came into work the morning before and
found someone had messed with the gate locks overnight. "They looked
like someone had inserted something—maybe a screwdriver—to screw them
up," she says, folding a retro ’80s T-shirt with a cut-out neck. "We
had to buy new locks."

The next morning, McKenzie found the graffiti. "They knew it
wouldn’t come off," she says. "This was malicious. They could have left
a note. They could have gotten in touch with us about their concerns."
But who could be so enraged by using a bike to pitch hipster duds?
Another saleswoman suggested something curious, that it was local
members of something called "tall-bike culture."

MENINGITIS IN BROOKLYN?

This from NY1:

The city Health Department says a new strain of bacterial
meningitis is circulating in Brooklyn, and it has already claimed four
victims.

Since late December, nine cases have been diagnosed in the borough, including four who died.

Health officials are urging New Yorkers to see their doctors if
they think they’re experiencing meningitis symptoms, which include:
fever, vomiting, confusion, headache, stiff neck and a rash.

Meningitis infects the tissues and fluid surrounding the brain and
spinal cord. It gets spread through close contact with an infected
person.

The disease can be treated with antibiotics if detected early, but it can also be fatal.

The Department of Health said recent patients with meningitis in
Brooklyn reported using street drugs or being in close contact with
people who used street drugs. The department says the general
population is not at a higher risk.

   

STEVE BUSCEMI FILM OPENING AT IFC CENTER

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David Carr in the New York Times waxes poetic about our man and favorite celeb, Steve Buscemi, who always seems to get knocked off in films.

Directors adore Steve Buscemi.
They lavish him with great roles, stellar dialogue, generous screen
time, and then — and there is no nice way to say this — they generally
bump him off.

"When I get cast, I always
flip to the end of the script to see if my character gets beaten up or
killed," Mr. Buscemi said, recalling a history of being stabbed, axed,
shot and fed to a wood chipper. "I really thought that after getting
killed on ‘The Sopranos,’ I should not accept scripts where I die. I
mean, there’s nowhere to go after getting killed by Tony Soprano.

"But
then I got offered this great part in ‘The Island,’ " he said, with a
whaddayagonnado shrug. "I didn’t even make it a third of the way
through the movie."

"I have been surviving a lot more lately, though," he added brightly.

In "Lonesome Jim," which opens tomorrow, Mr. Buscemi does not die, perhaps only because he directed the film and does not play a role.

The Jim of the movie’s title, played by Casey Affleck,
is no barrel of monkeys; he recalls many of Mr. Buscemi’s losers and
victims and perpetrators. He arrives home from the big city on the bus,
his tail not so much tucked between his legs as trailing behind him,
maimed and run over. He is sucked into the gaping maw of a nuclear
family he quietly loathes and spreads his misery — he diagnoses his
condition as "chronic despair" — between bouts of ennui. He is more of
a loser than, say, the ice cream truck driver of "Trees Lounge"
(1996), the first feature film Mr. Buscemi directed, but has a little
better luck with women. The female love interest, played by Liv Tyler, sees something in him that Jim, alas, cannot see in himself.

"I
don’t tend to think of these characters as losers," Mr. Buscemi, 48,
said, pushing around some eggs at French Roast in Greenwich Village. "I
like the struggles that people have, people who are feeling like they
don’t fit into society, because I still sort of feel that way."

Over
breakfast, after taking the F train from Brooklyn, where he lives, Mr.
Buscemi hardly comes across as the twitch he frequently plays in
movies. Sad-sack or homicidal roles aside, he is a working actor
married to a writer and filmmaker, Jo Andres, and they have a
15-year-old son. After his breakout turn as Mr. Pink in Quentin Tarantino’s "Reservoir Dogs" in 1992, he has had big roles in big movies — "Armageddon" and "Con Air"
— and continues to make smaller movies with the pals he came of
professional age with in the 80’s, including Mark Boone Junior, who
played fireplug to Mr. Buscemi’s skinny fireman — his day job at the
time — in comedy bits they worked up. Mr. Boone plays Evil in "Lonesome
Jim," a Hells Angel type who rides a moped.

Mr. Boone, who has
known and worked with Mr. Buscemi for 25 years, is unsurprised by his
success. "He’s got a great face, great eyes, he knows his mechanism and
knows how to use it," he said, adding that in spite of Mr. Buscemi’s
ubiquity, "I think he is underused. There are a lot of things that he
can do besides the kind of roles that he is cast in."

"Lonesome
Jim" made its debut last year at Sundance to mixed reviews. Mr. Buscemi
has no sense of entitlement around his work as a director, but has yet
to figure out the folkways of the movie business…

READ MORE AT THE NY TIMES.

BROOKLYN UNDERGROUND FILM FESTIVAL

The Brooklyn Underground Film Festival is just around the corner. It will be at the Brooklyn Lyceum on Fourth Avenue at President. April 19 – 23 are the dates. The following list
is just a sample of what you can expect to see at this event…

My Grandmother’s House
Adán Aliaga’s visionary documentary revelas two very distinct
characters: Marina, six years old, and Marita, her 75-year old
grandmother. As Marita tries at no avail to tame the spirited
youngster, the quietly omniscient camera follows them through their
days together, often accompanied by Marita’s clique of jaded,
like-minded grandmas. But what will happen to Marita’s emotional
impasse when she must give up her home of fifty years?

 

Lifelike
Meet four unlikely taxidermists or self-proclaimed Realist artists, and
one enthusiastic client. This documentary by Canadian filmmaker Tally
Abecassis will open one’s eyes to the profession of taxidermy—or how to
fall into it—as it traces the steps to the National Convention in
Alberta, where professionalism goes to the next level: showmanship.

 

High Score
A crowd favorite for all ages, filmmaker Jeremy Mack takes us on a zany
tour of classic arcade game enthusiasm, and in particular one die-hard
Missile Command fanatic who may or may not be just the one fated to
beat the game’s all-time high score.

 

Clever Monkey Pinochet Versus La Moneda Pigs
Weaving together improvisations of several groups of young people,
Bettina Perut an d Ivan Osnovikoff’s documentary tells an historical
event from the imaginations of those who grew up in its wake. The plot
of the September 11, Military Coup in Chile is portrayed in lively acts
by children and young Chileans, giving way to how history is processed
by the people.

 

The Empire in Africa
The international reaction to the civil war in Sierra Leone has
resulted in one of the most devastating humanitarian disasters in
recent history, and Philippe Diaz’s narrative, important documentary
tells the inside story of the country’s victims.

The Other Side
This highly visual, personal documentary by up-and-coming filmmaker
Bill Brown explores the United States-Mexico border and its liminal
cinematic __expression. Talking to undocumented immigrants and border
activists along the way, the director sheds a new, poetic light upon a
landscape well-known to politicians and his Texas hometown.

 

Super Happy Fun Monkey Bash
is a no-holds-barred and often shocking montage of clips from popular
Japanese TV. But what happens when these clips are taken out of
context, presented before a disengaged Western audience, and become a
cult DVD success?

For more info, visit the Brooklyn Underground Film Festival website.

NEW RABBI FOR CONGREGATION BETH ELOHIM

As part of my research for a piece I am writing about religion in Brooklyn for the Brooklyn Papers, I’ve discovered that Beth Elohim is getting a new senior rabbi and his name is Rabbi Andy Bachman and HE’S GOT A BLOG. How cool is that? A rabbi with a blog. Here’s a post from March 21st. I am hoping he’ll let me interview him for the Brooklyn Papers piece.

Today I was officially voted in as the new rabbi at Congregation
Beth Elohim of Brooklyn. Congregational by-laws require an election by
at least a quorum of its members for such large, transitional issues as
hiring a new rabbi. And so today, after hearing a thorough presentation
on the rabbinic search process from the committee chair, David
Kasakove, the shul’s president, Jules Hirsh, called for a vote.

It passed.  And in an instant, or so it seemed, my life and our life as a family changed forever.

Of
course, the community was stil humming along–there was Religious School
across the street in the Temple House; the choir was itching to
rehearse; traffic on 8th Avenue was speeding along outside. Our Irish
neighbors were preparing for the Brooklyn version of St. Patricks Day.
But our life was changed in an instant.

DUCK AND COVER AT THE BROOKLYN BRIDGE

At the base of the Brooklyn Bridge, workers came across a stash of Cold War survival supplies: This from New York 1:

A historic discovery is made at the base of the Brooklyn Bridge.

Workers inspecting the bridge on Tuesday stumbled on a Cold War stockpile of survival previsions. Among the supplies were water drums, paper blankets, medical supplies, and 350,000 crackers with higher-than-normal calories.

“It tasted like 44-year-old food," said Department of Transportation Commissioner Iris Weinshall, who ate one of the crackers.

The vault is believed to have been built by the Office of Civil Defense in the 1950s. It is a reminder of a period of U.S. history when the country was at odds with the Soviet Union, and air raid sirens and fall-out shelters were common.

MARK MORRIS FILM PICKS AT BAM

I check A Brooklyn Life every day and today she’s all over Mark Morris at BAM:

At BAM, wacky modern dance guru Mark Morris
celebrates his company’s 25th anniversary  with a series of dance
pieces…and a movie festival. Fortunately, he seems to have pretty OK
flick tastes, with Robert Altman’s truly genius Nashville  on Saturday, and the evil-piano-teacher epic The 5,000 Fingers of Dr. T (with script by Dr. Seuss!) on Sunday.

POSTCARD FROM THE SLOPE: KEYS

Back Story: Teen Spirit took my keys off of the dining room table and was planning to hand them to me when I met him at Smiley Face Pizza on Monday night before he was off to the concert. But he forgot. Then he handed them to his friend "for safe keeping."

Next Morning: "Sorry mom. You can use my key." Only problem: I need my work keys and they’re with those keys his friend his holding "for safe keeping."

No Biggie: The manager of the space where I rent my office has back-up keys. I get mine and decide to hang on to them since god knows when Teen Spirit will see friend with MY KEYS.

Dumb move:
I leave the extra set of office keys on my desk at the office.

Next morning: I’m with my friend who I regularly meditate with on Wednesday morning checking my bag for that extra set of keys when I realize they’re on the desk in my locked office.

Not Very Calm: Searching through my bag, I realize that not only am I mit out keys but I am mit out cell phone.

Just in Case:
I check with the office manager to see if they have ANOTHER set of extra keys.

No Such Luck: I walk up to my office mate’s apartment praying that she is home from dropping off her daughter.

VOILA:
She is home. Surprised to see me, it looks like she is just going to hand me the keys at the door. I say, "I am coming in."

BEE-LINE:
I make one to her dining room table, ask her to heat up my now-cold Cousin John’s coffee, and feel like crying. "I have a million things to do, I am overwhelmed, I am stressed, and I can’t get into the office…"

COMFORT ZONE:
She offers to make me breakfast (eggs, bagel, toast?), and tells me she has already done one of the things I was so stressed out about ("I took care of it, do you want to take a look?")

RELIEVED: The sun pours into the dining room. It is, just maybe, going to be an alright day.

BLUE RIBBON OPENING ON THE YUPPER WEST SIDE

Our beloved Blue Ribbon is going seriously uptown (honey, we’re not in Park Slope, SoHo or the village anymore) opening a restaurant near the Time Warner Center. So says the New York Post:

Uptown Manhattanites won’t have as far to go for
Blue Ribbon’s food. Hotelier Jason Pomeranc says he’s bringing a hybrid
branch of the popular Blue Ribbon and Blue Ribbon Sushi restaurants to
his hotel at 308 W. 58th St., located across the street from the Time
Warner Center.

Pomeranc is renovating the hotel, which is presently called
the Westpark, where he’s also adding five floors on top and will rename
it 6 Columbus Circle when it’s completed later this year.

TAKE A PIX OF DAFFODILS

Got word of this from blogger, Emily Farris. Thanks Emily.

NYC Daffodils Photo Contest

From
March 23 to May 1 submit your photo of a blooming daffodil for your
chance to win $500, $250, or $100, and your photo featured on Daffodil
Project promotional materials. 

GO HERE ON March 23 at 9:30 a.m. to enter!

About the Contest

This
spring, nearly 3 million daffodils will bloom in New York City as part
of the Daffodil Project, a living 9/11 memorial. From March 23 to May
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raises the spirits of New Yorkers, but also draws attention to the
needs of neglected parks and open spaces citywide.

The
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long as there are volunteers willing to plant them. More than 20,000
volunteers have responded to his challenge so far. And thanks to their
efforts, nearly 3 million yellow daffodils will bloom in over 1,300
individual sites across the five boroughs this spring.

 

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BRING THEM HOME

Peace_concert_webI was interested  to see that the contemporary anti-war movement isn’t trying to imitate the  anti-war movement of the 1960’s and 1970’s.

The Iraq War belongs to this generation and they are opposing it in their own way.

No sing alongs
No We Shall Overcome
No Give Peace a Chance
No folkies

Monday night’s show was decidedly 2006 with an inclusive hetero, gay, bi, trans-gender progressive feel. 

When Susan Sarandon, on stage to introduce Cindy Sheehan, remarked that there weren’t many parents out there, boy, was she right.

Some of us raised our hands — or our eyebrows. But it was mostly a young teenage through late 20’s crowd.

Someone shouted out "You’re hot" to Susan  Sarandon and she looked flattered. The crowd loved Susan and Cindy Sheehan who is one awesome, great speaker; an inspiration. A female Iraqi pharmacist spoke movingly of the pain and horror in her country.

Steve Earle:  Probably the oldest performer of the night sang two great songs. "Fuck the FCC, the CIA…" The kids loved it. A blend of Country Joe and the Fish and Hair. Then he sang a beautiful song dedicated to his sons. He said, "I opposed the Vietnam War from the beginning. But we didn’t end that war because of me. That war ended when my father opposed it, too. We have to welcome in the people who might have believed in the war at first but have now changed their minds…"

Margaret Cho: So, so funny, irreverent, says what she thinks great eyes, great presentation. Cool.

Fisher Spooner: Glam meets performance art meets Bowie meets Hedwig meets circus meets Broadway meets disco meets modern dance. Acrobats, dancers, singers, musicians in futuristic costumes.  I think they were the hit of the night.

Devendra Banhart: The 14-year-old girls from Long Island standing behind me ("My mother told me not to miss the 11:42) were out of their minds with joy when he came onstage. He’s bizarre, bearded, Jim Morrison and The Band…"We love you Devendra. We love you…."  Hot.

Moby: A surprise guest, he was very low key and came out with an acoustic guitar and introduced the song, "What is Happening Here?" this way: "It’s not Not that I’m a hippy but I went to a lot of anti-war peace marches when I was a kid and this was my mother’s favorite song. "Stop children what’s that sound…"

Peaches: To a disco/techno beat she sings about sex ("2 Girls one Guy") and "Fucking the War."  Performance art meets burlesque, in her gold lame leotard and gloves, she is indescribably ribald.

Rufus Wainwright: Utterly, totally adorable. He forgot the words to his own song, "11:11" and said he was "pulling a Judy Garland."

He then sat down at the piano and sang the almost operatic "Skunk Cabbage," which he said was the first song he ever wrote when he was at boarding school in Millbrook. And finished with an exultant version of "Somewhere Over the Rainbow" with his mother, folk legend, Kate McGarrigle of The McGarrigle sisters. NO ONE in the audience knew who she was and she just slipped behind the piano UNNOTICED.

Bright Eyes:
Connor Orbst, the next great hope of rock and roll if you believe the hype. Unbelievably young, Dylan-y, wordy rocker sang "When the President Speaks to God." He rocked the house with his plugged in acoustic guitar and the crowd loved it.

Michael Stipe: By then, I was sick and tired of standing. Plus I knew that Teen Spirit, who was standing right under the stage with two friends, did not want to run into me (so embarrassing) so I left mid-way through Stipe’s set (which was pretty mediocre to begin with). I did like his comments about his father and grandfather being soldiers and that being something he grew up with and respected.

All in all and incredible evening proving that this generation is defining their own opposition to the war and expressing in their own  unique way. 

The show was produced by my old friend, Chris Wangro, who did an incredible job introducing the acts. The show ran like clockwork and was really thoughtfully organized and paced.

THINKING FIDGETS

A nice note from the owner of Fidgets, who moved last year with her daughter to Atlanta, Georgia, got me thinking about Fidgets and how much things have changed around here.

Thanks so much for the kind words about Fidgets- I am the owner of
the former fidgets and have moved on to the Atlanta, GA area- I do
miss my customers and my store- but my daughter and I have gone through
this past winter without the blizzards of New York — hope to see
you all again when i pass through Park Slope.

Back in the days before the Bugaboo, and all the other designer baby products, gear, and what’ll-they-think-of-next products- there was Fidgits, meeting the more simple needs of Park Slope parents in the 1990’s.

Back then, it was all about black and white IQ enhancing toys and Fidgets always had those mobiles in stock.

Fidgets was a Park Slope original. It opened back in the days before people actually spent money in Park Slope. At least that’s what the merchants used to say in 1991. Park Slopers spend money in Manhattan. They don’t like to part with their cash here.

Grumble. Grumble. And it was probably kind of true.

But all that has changed now. There is MONEY to be made her and people are parting with it. Manhattan be damed.

So, Fidgets was a pioneer on Seventh Avenue, selling cool, comfy, and tasteful clothing for kids. Lisa, the owner, knew what the parents wanted. She totally GOT IT: Organic cotton. Low key style. A little funky. Not ostentatious. Comfortable. Easy. Fun.

Afterall, this was Park Slope not Soho or the Upper East Side.

My cousin used to make a pilgrammage to Fidgits every time she visited me (from the Upper West Side) to buy leggings and then corderoy pants and striped shirts for her son. Fidgets always had the BEST clothing for boys on a street that is a desert for clothing for boys.

Where else could you go to buy boy’s clothes? Other than the Gap. And that’s in Manhattan and who wants to go there?

Fidgets started out in the Fratelli Raviolli space – that tiny, tiny, space. But Lisa made it work and it looked colorful and playful, inviting and fun.  Then she moved next door when – what store was in that space before Fidgets – moved out.

A nice, easy to navigate shop, it came in real handy when OSFO needed tights, winter fleece hats, sun hats, mittens, gloves. There was always something we needed – and Lisa had lots of secret plastic boxes filled with exactly what we needed.

Speaking of thing we needed, I think we bought our first Groovy Girls there. Fidgets was way ahead of the curve when it came to Groovy Dolls.

And gifts? And gifts. How many baby shower and new baby gifts did I buy at Fidgets

Oh the fun of shopping for that newest, youngest thing. And picking out Teen Spirit’s cords and striped shirts, OSFO’s groovy skirts, cute blouses, bathing suits.

Simple, classic, cool.

Thanks Fidgets for dressing my kids. So, nu, are you opening a shop in Atlanta?

HAVE SOME CHEESECAKE AT THE MOJO

Here’s a note from a reader about Ainsley’s Cheesecakes, which are featured at the new Mojo Cafe. They are, truth be told, quite tasty. I went to the opening of the new Mojo a few weeks back and learned that Giancarlo, the new owner, bakes EVERYTHING, including the cheesecake, himself. I sampled some chocolate cheesecake and it’s delicious. The shop also sells cream puffs, cannoli’s, cookies, banana bread and MORE. They also have a chocolate devil’s food cake and carrot cake. Why do I have the feeling that this note was written by someone associated with the Mojo? Just a feeling.

NO MOJOS IS NOT LONGER AN ICE CREAM PLACE BUT IF THE DAILY CHEESE
CAKE EVEN COMES CLOSE TO THE HEAVENLY CHEESE CAKE THEY DELIVERED TO ME
FOR CHRISTMAS COMPLIMENTS OF MY SISTER, ID BE MORE THAN HAPPY TO SIT
THERE AND "BREAK CHEESECAKE" ALL DAY LONG!

IT WAS A OLD STYLE NY CHEESE CAKE TOPPED WITH CHOCOLATE MOUSSE COVERED IN A CHOCOLATE SHELL AND SPRINKLED WITH CHOCOLATE CHIPS!

CHOCOLATE HEAVEN IN A BOX I TELL YAH! 

DONT BELIEVE ME? STOP BY AND TRY IT SOMETIME,I DIDNT NOTICE THAT YOU
HAD BOTHERED TO TRY THE CHEESECAKE SO YOU MIGHT WANT TO FOLLOW UP WITH
THAT SUGGESTION.

IF NOT ORDER ONE FROM WWW.AINSELYCHEESECAKE.COM! 

AND HEY IF THE ICE CREAM SHOP WAS DOING SO MUCH BUSINESS WHY’D THE GUY SELL THE SHOP FOR IN THE FIRST PLACE?

THOUSANDS RUN THE BROOKLYN-HALF MARATHON

2006_03_19_bkmarathon_1The Gothamist ran a piece on the Brooklyn Half-Marathon. I ran it last year and it was TRULY one of the GREAT, GREAT experiences of my life – right up there with – okay here’s the list:

1. The Birth of my children
2. My wedding
3. Ducky’s arrival in the U.S.
4. Seeing the Rolling Stones, Janis Joplin, Ike and Tina Turner and B.B. King at Madison Square Garden when I was 11 years old.

Oh, the Brooklyn Half-Marathon.

The what?

Sigh.

Well, even if you didn’t know that the 13.1 mile half-marathon from Coney Island to Prospect Park existed, 3999 other people
(2352 men and 1647 women) not only did but managed to run the whole
thing yesterday. 23-year-old Felipe Garcia was the overall male winner
with a time of 1:10:22. 35-year-old Edie Perkins took the overall
female title with a time of 1:23:44. You can find more results here.

Want to run a half-marathon yourself? The next one is on April 29 in Queens and you can register here.