AU CONTRAIRE: THE OCCASIONAL NOTE FROM PETER LOFFREDO

Here’s a little something from our pal Pete, local holistic psychotherapist and blogger.

This is a great little comedic video making fun of an actual Public Service Announcement from the insane Abstinence Only crowd:

[http://www.huffingtonpost.com/jessie-gaskell/talk-to-your-kids-about-s_b_70328.html]

Why is “abstinence only” insane as public policy? Well, hopefully, you don’t really have to ask that, but in case you do, here’s why:

Nature never fucks up (only people do, because of ego and hubris). Nature causes kids to have powerful sexual feelings after puberty, which means DURING THEIR TEEN YEARS. To tell kids in the throws of those surging urges to just ignore those feelings and (OH GOSH!) never, ever act on them is about as realistic as the Wizard of Oz telling Dorothy and her gang to “Pay no attention to that man behind the curtain.” Not to mention the conflict your engendering by telling your child that something inside of them that calls them so joyfully and urgently is bad for them to enjoy. Ugh!

Furthermore, is there still anyone out there who actually believes that the foundation for a good marriage is pre-marital virginity? As a therapist who has worked with many, many married couples over many years, I can tell you that one of the main reasons for divorce is sexual incompatibility among people who got married too soon – so they could have sex! Maybe, in its infinite wisdom, nature provides us with a window of opportunity to explore ourselves sexually during our teen years and early twenties, so if and when we do decide to get married and have children, we’ll actually choose somebody we will be compatibile with in a major area of relationship.

Parents, please have the wisdom to either talk to your children about sex openly, and in a positive way, or at the very least, let somebody else with wisdom talk to them. Or talk to me at:
http://fullpermissionliving.blogspot.com/

3 thoughts on “AU CONTRAIRE: THE OCCASIONAL NOTE FROM PETER LOFFREDO”

  1. One more time – evidence that abstinence only is a fool’s errand, or rather, the foolish intention of sexually repressed, unconscious, anti-sex zealots. Here’s the latest in the NY Times:
    (http://health.usnews.com/usnews/health/healthday/071205/teen-birth-rates-up-for-first-time-in-14-years-us-reports.htm)
    An excerpt: In a troubling reversal, the nation’s teen birth rate rose for the first time in 15 years, surprising government health officials and reviving the bitter debate about abstinence-only sex education. Experts said they have been expecting a jump. They blamed it on increased federal funding for abstinence-only health education that doesn’t teach teens how to use condoms and other contraception.
    Some key sexually transmitted disease rates have been rising, including syphilis, gonorrhea and chlamydia. The rising teen pregnancy rate is part of the same phenomenon, said Dr. Carol Hogue, an Emory University professor of maternal and child health.
    ”It’s not rocket science,” she said.

  2. And the reality just keeps on coming! IT’S NOT ROCKET SCIENCE! Read this and weep:
    “In a troubling reversal, the nation’s teen birth rate rose for the first time in 15 years, surprising government health officials and reviving the bitter debate about abstinence-only sex education.
    “The birth rate had been dropping since its peak in 1991, although the decline had slowed in recent years. On Wednesday, government statisticians said it rose 3 percent from 2005 to 2006.
    “The reason for the increase is not clear, and federal health officials said it might be a one-year statistical blip, not the beginning of a new upward trend.
    “However, some experts said they have been expecting a jump. They blamed it on increased federal funding for abstinence-only health education that doesn’t teach teens how to use condoms and other contraception.
    “Some key sexually transmitted disease rates have been rising, including syphilis, gonorrhea and chlamydia. The rising teen pregnancy rate is part of the same phenomenon, said Dr. Carol Hogue, an Emory University professor of maternal and child health.
    “It’s not rocket science,’ she said.
    “The new report offers a state-by-state breakdown of birth rates overall. Many of those with the highest birth rates teach abstinence instead of comprehensive sex education.
    “And research has concluded that abstinence-only programs do not cause a decrease in teenage sexual activity.
    “In the last decade, more than $1 billion has been wasted on abstinence-only programs.”
    And so on…

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